Why they didn't love you
He/she popped into your mind right? The person that you were trying to give your all to, or the ones you were super interested in and treated them so well. I know, a few face pop into my mind also- so I get it.
I spent a lot of years chasing after guys who only recently have learned that I was a good girl all along, of course only now that I'm over it.
If you're anything like me you toiled over why they didn't like or care about you in the same way that you felt for them. You may or may not have cried multiple nights questioning what was so wrong with you, or even prayed wishing you could fix yourself.
I know, I've been there more than once.
Well you know what, in all of these tragic love stories that didn't end like the fairy tales, you know what the common denominator was?
Yeah, I said it. You (and myself) are the common denominator in all of our relationships.
Only recently have I been able to admit this and really devote time into discovering the hidden levels.
You can be a great catch, but haven't gotten over your trust issues.
You could make an amazing significant other, but have failed to take off the mask that you're trying to show the world.
You may make a great spouse one day, but haven't completely accepted yourself- flaws and all yet!
And unfortunately, these are things that you can only hide for so long before they start showing up in your behaviors, and they are also things that can be picked up on by others.
If someone knows you haven't accepted yourself yet, and may feel less than and just SO happy to have them in your life- because you don't quite feel like you deserve someone as amazing as them, you can bet they're going to take advantage of that and possibly exploit that- even if they're a "good" person.
People are meant to help us satisfy our own beliefs about ourselves, which is why when you start believing that you're amazing, people will come around to validate you!
I''m also at a place now, where I know what I want, what I don't want and what I will and will not tolerate. flags don't entice me to see what good is behind them and I also realize that being single is not a curse. And the place I am now, has attracted every guy that still has some way to contact me, to reach out.
You see, I've always been a good catch, a beautiful lady and worth it- it's just that now I'm walking in that.
Let me know if you would like me to share tips on self love and self care!
Thanks for reading!