• Rae Williams

What If He Asks To Touch It...


The first encounter isn’t normally that bad. You may receive a lot of compliments or smiles. If you make it to a first actual date, you may receive a lot more smiles directly from him, or even catch him staring at it in amazement.

I know I can’t be the only one who has caught him staring, right?

I’m talking about my hair- get your mind outta the gutter!

I often wear my hair in the style that a gig has requested it in, which is usually long or curly. As sometimes, I’m just too lazy to do my own hair and decide to slap on a protective style. So sometimes, when I meet guys I have this big, beautiful curly set of curls on my head, or long luxurious locks of straight hair when they first see me. 

I’ve grown very fond of my natural hair, I appreciate how thick it is and how I can do so much with it.

However, I get super self conscious when someone (typically a guy) meets me with one look, and then I don’t wear that look the next time.

And I’m not sure if you’ve experienced someone asking to touch your hair, but I have. In all of its stages. I don’t want your hands in my hair, weave, wig or head in general- so I’m generally terrified of going on a date and having a requesting to touch my hair.

I went on a second date tonight, and in getting prepared I asked my roommate what I should wear. She replied- your natural hair.

I honestly was referring to clothing wise, but figured I would also take her advice with my mini fro.

It was the first thing he complimented me on, and luckily he didn’t ask if he could touch it - which I really appreciated it. 

I’ve previously gone into panic mode over the “switch up” of hair styles, but I’m slowly embracing that this is who I am, apart of my day to day and nothing I should feel ashamed of.

Does anyone else feel this way about hair, makeup or clothes when it comes down to dating?

#naturalhair #Afro #4cHair #Natural #Dating #Millennial #Model #Relationships #Newfriends

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